January 13, 20267 min readLet’s be honest for a second.
A lot of couples do not actually want more stuff for their wedding. They want experiences, memories, and a honeymoon that feels like a proper exhale after months of planning.
And guests? Guests do not want to guess. They want to know what will make you happiest, without accidentally buying the “wrong” thing.
So why does it still feel awkward to say what you actually want?
Because “cash” can sound a bit blunt, even when what you mean is genuinely lovely: Help us have an unforgettable honeymoon.
This is exactly the awkward moment Collection Pot was made for.
A Honeymoon Pot is the awkwardness killer. It skips the awkward money chat. And instead of asking for cash, you’re asking people to chip in towards your dream honeymoon.
You simply share one easy link with your honeymoon story, and guests can chip in gifts and messages. No bank details. No admin. And no awkward asks.
Now, let’s break down the new wedding gift rules (and the simple wording that makes it all feel easy).
The polite thing is not pretending you would love another toaster.
The polite thing is giving guests a clear idea of what would make you happiest.
That is the new wedding gift rule:
Clarity is kind.
When you share what you are saving for (and keep it calm and optional), you remove the awkwardness for everyone:
No. A honeymoon fund is a modern way to handle cash wedding gifts - just keep the wording kind and optional:
“If you’d like to give a gift, you can contribute to our honeymoon fund. Absolutely no pressure.”
If you are thinking, “Okay, but it still feels weird typing the word money,” you are not alone.
A lot of couples take the long way round, like:
None of this makes you difficult.
It makes you considerate.
But there is a simpler way.
Cash feels awkward when it sounds like cash.
It feels much less awkward when it sounds like what it really is:
Helping you have the honeymoon you’re dreaming of.
A Honeymoon Pot works because it frames the ask in a warm, guest-friendly way:
In other words: it turns “here’s money” into “be part of our honeymoon story”.
It does four things that make the whole “asking” part feel simpler:
1) It makes it personal (not transactional)
Your Honeymoon Pot is your chance to share your honeymoon dream, not just a request for money.
2) It makes it simple for guests
It’s one clear link you can share across your wedding invites (no bank details needed).
3) It keeps it thoughtful
Guests can leave messages (and even share photos, gifs, and videos), you can keep long after the wedding.
4) It’s easy to share anywhere
Wedding website, invitations, follow‑up messages to guests who ask — one link, done.
Ready to create your Pot? Get started today.
Here are a few templates you can copy and tweak.
Option 1 (simple and classic):
“Your presence is the only gift we need. If you would like to give something, we have set up a Honeymoon Pot so you can chip in towards our trip. Absolutely no pressure.”
Option 2 (more personal):
“We are lucky to have everything we need at home, so instead of a traditional gift list, we have set up a Honeymoon Pot for [destination]. If you would like to contribute, we would be so grateful. Your company means the most.”
“Thank you for asking. We have set up a Honeymoon Pot for our wedding gifts. Please do not feel you have to, but if you would like to give something, you can chip in here towards the honeymoon.”
“If you were thinking of giving a gift, we would love a contribution towards our honeymoon. We have set up a Honeymoon Pot so you can chip in if you wish.”
Wedding gifting has changed.
Most couples would rather have experiences than more stuff. Most guests would rather have clarity than a guessing game.
So if you are quietly hoping for honeymoon contributions, you are not being rude. You are being practical.
Collection Pot’s Honeymoon Pot is the awkwardness killer: one simple link, a story guests can get behind, and a way for people to chip in that still feels personal and celebratory.
If you want the simplest way to do this, start your Honeymoon Pot and share your link where it feels natural.
One little Pot. One helpful link. A whole lot less awkward.
Is a honeymoon fund tacky in the UK?
Not anymore. Most couples already live together and don’t need more stuff. The polite move is clarity, with “no pressure” wording.
How do you politely ask for a honeymoon fund instead of gifts?
Keep it simple and optional. Say your presence is what matters, and if someone would like to give a gift, they can contribute to your honeymoon.
What should we write on our wedding website for a honeymoon fund?
Use one clear paragraph and one link. Avoid over-explaining. Your guests just want to know what to do.
What is a Honeymoon Pot?
It’s a honeymoon fund page that makes the ask feel warm and personal, with one simple link guests can chip into.
Jasmine Stone is a marketing manager with nearly ten years’ experience in digital fundraising and tech, creating campaigns that feel human rather than transactional. At Collection Pot, she focuses on content that makes group gifting easier and more joyful. When she is off duty, you will usually find her with her nose in a good book or exploring a new city.
