How to ask for cash as a wedding gift without it being awkward

If you are secretly hoping for cash instead of another set of matching towels, you are in good company.

Most couples would rather put gift money towards something big and meaningful, like flights, hotels, or once‑in‑a‑lifetime honeymoon experiences.

The hard part is this bit:

How do you actually ask for cash without it feeling grabby or awkward?

This is where a Honeymoon Pot steps in as the awkwardness killer.

With Collection Pot, you can tell the story of your dream trip, invite guests to chip in, and turn giving cash into part of the celebration.

No awkward money chats.

No ums, no pauses.

Just one link, one Pot, and one very happy couple.

Let us break it down.

Step 1: Start with your dream honeymoon

Before you think about wording, start with the fun part. What are you actually saving for?

• A once‑in‑a‑lifetime safari
• A week by the sea with nothing in the diary except naps and novels
• A city break packed with food, galleries, and wandering

When you know what you want people to help with, it feels less like “please send money” and more like “please help us make this happen”.

Why this helps you

• You have a clear story to tell on your Honeymoon Pot
• Guests can picture what they are contributing to
• You are talking about memories, not just money

Once you have that rough picture in mind, you are ready for the Pot.

Step 2: Create your Honeymoon Pot

Your Honeymoon Pot is the one place where all your cash gifts come together.

It is your awkwardness killer for cash wedding gifts, wrapped up in one joyful little Pot.

You can:

• Name your Pot after your trip, for example “Sam and Ellie’s Italian road trip”
• Add a photo that feels like you, from an engagement snap to a beach you are dreaming of
• Write a short message about why this honeymoon matters so much

You choose whether guests can see the total or not. You stay in control, and you get the cash straight to your account when you are ready to withdraw, with no fees to you.

Why this helps you

• One link to share everywhere
• No sharing bank details
• No separate transfers to track
• Free to set up, and free to withdraw your cash

Now the Pot is ready, you can focus on how you ask.

Step 3: Use wording that sounds like you

Asking for cash feels awkward when it sounds blunt or stiff.

The goal is simple:

Be honest.

Keep it kind.

Make it easy.

Here are some wording ideas you can borrow and tweak.

On your wedding website or invitations

“Your presence is the only gift we need. If you would like to give something, we are saving for our honeymoon. We have set up a Honeymoon Pot so you can chip in towards the trip if you wish.”

“We are lucky to have everything we need for our home. If you were thinking of a gift, we would love a contribution to our Honeymoon Pot to help us make some special memories.”

“The biggest gift is celebrating with you. For anyone who would like to give a little extra, we have created a Honeymoon Pot so you can chip in towards our first adventure as a married couple.”

In a message or email

“We have set up a Honeymoon Pot for our wedding gifts. If you were thinking of getting us something, feel free to chip in here towards the trip. Absolutely no pressure, your company means the most.”

“Instead of a traditional gift list, we are saving for our honeymoon. If you would like to contribute, you can add a message and chip in through our Honeymoon Pot.”

Short, clear and calm beats clever every time.

Step 4: Turn cash gifts into part of the celebration

One of the reasons cash can feel awkward is that it seems less personal than a wrapped present.

A Honeymoon Pot fixes that.

Your guests can:

• Leave personal messages
• Add gifs, photos, and even videos
• Share in jokes, memories, and well wishes

For you, that means you are not just getting a transfer. You are getting a wall of messages you can come back to long after the wedding.

Why guests love it

• They know their gift is going towards something you really want
• They can add a message that actually sounds like them
• They can see other people joining in and feel part of one big gift

It turns “Here is some money” into “Here is our little part of your dream trip”.

Step 5: Share your Pot in the places that feel natural

Once your Honeymoon Pot is ready, you can quietly weave it into your plans.

Ideas:

• Add the link to the “Gifts” or “Honeymoon” section of your wedding website
• Pop a small information card in with your invitations
• Include it in follow‑up emails to evening guests
• Use a QR code on the day itself for anyone who decides to chip in last minute

You do not need a big announcement. A short line, a clear link, and a calm tone does the job.

If you like, you can pair the link with an “awkwardness killer” line:

“We would love cash for our honeymoon, feel free to chip in here.”

“If you would like to give a gift, our Honeymoon Pot is here.”

Simple. Honest. Straight talking.

Step 6: Watch your Honeymoon Pot fill up

As your wedding gets closer, you will see your Pot fill with contributions and messages.

You can:

• Log in any time to see who has chipped in
• Read the messages as they come through
• Decide when you want to withdraw the money, free of charge

When you are ready, you can cash out and use the money for the things that will make your honeymoon special. Flights. Hotels. That one restaurant you have had saved for months.

Step 7: Say thank you the easy way

After the wedding, you can use your Pot to send personalised thank yous to everyone who chipped in.

Share:

• A quick note about the trip
• A photo from your honeymoon
• A line about what their gift helped you do

It keeps the celebration going and shows guests their gift really did make a difference.

Why a Honeymoon Pot makes asking for cash feel less awkward

If you are still on the fence, here is a quick recap.

• It feels personal

  You are inviting people to be part of your dream honeymoon, not asking for “just cash”.

• It kills the awkwardness

  Guests see a simple link and a clear message, not a difficult money ask.

• It is easy to explain

  One short paragraph and a link is all you need.

• It is clear and honest

  Guests know exactly what you are hoping for, and why.

• It keeps the joy in giving

  Messages, gifs, photos and shared excitement turn a practical gift into a keepsake.

• You stay in control

  You decide how your Pot looks, what you write, and when you withdraw the money.

Ready to fund your honeymoon, minus the awkward chats?

Create your Honeymoon Pot, tell the story of your dream trip, and give your guests an easy way to chip in.

No tangled bank transfers. No uncomfortable conversations.

Just one little Pot, one helpful link, and a honeymoon you will never forget.

Create your Honeymoon Pot