What To Write On Funeral Cards & Flowers

If you are reading this at a time of sadness, please accept our condolences for your loss. We know how hard it can be to decide what to write on funeral flowers or a funeral card – striking that balance that treasures their memory, but which also fits into the small space given. It can seem impossible to summarise all you wish to say in such a tiny card, or to say anything. 

Often, simply being honest, recalling a memory or saying ‘there are no words for this awful time’ or ‘I will miss you so much’ are just as valid as a long text of platitudes or verses. 

It can be painful to sit with hard emotions and not want to say something that makes it all better, so remember that the purpose of your funeral flowers or card – whether being laid or given to the family, or to be placed for a dear family member or friend of your own, is to mark respect, honour a life and to also give you space to say all you need to. 

We know how challenging this can be and how getting it right can feel overwhelming –  so we have carefully selected some ideas for you to draw inspiration as you work through the grieving process.  Please take what you need to honour your loved one on the day as the flowers are laid. 

If you also are attending a funeral but you may not have known the person who has passed very well, we also have options for you too, so you can be confident you are leaving a respectful message. 

When it comes to what to write on funeral flowers that will be laid at the ceremony, most choose to direct your words to the individual who has passed, however, you may wish to send funeral flowers to the family in advance or after the ceremony. We will cover what to write on these as well later on. 

Short messages for funeral flowers and cards 

These short sentences say all you need without taking too much space. This means you could use any of these as your wording on the funeral flowers card too. 

Longer messages for close family and friends for funeral flowers and cards 

Messages for acquaintances / Distant relatives for funeral flowers and cards

If you aren’t sure of the person but still would like to leave a respectful message, these short ideas may be just ideal for the card. 

What to write on funeral cards or flowers for family of the deceased

You may be sending a funeral card or flowers to someone before or after the funeral and want to speak to the loved ones and offer them condolences. This can feel hard – and it can seem that nothing you say makes any difference, but believe that people just look for simple words, kind memories and even laughter at this time. 

You may find that you resonate with some of the sentiments below. 

What to write on sympathy flowers and sympathy cards

While you often need to send flowers and cards before or after the funeral, you may also need to send a sympathy card or send sympathy flowers. Perhaps one of your employees has suffered the loss of a loved one, and you need appropriate bereavement messages, but these might be coming before, during or after the ceremony. You may also not know the person who passed, what they were like, or even if they followed a certain religious belief. 

It’s best to stick to neutral statements rather than attempting to provide comfort. 

Writing a funeral card or flowers – worried you will say it wrong? 

If this article has helped show one thing, we hope it’s showing that you don’t have to write reams of text to show love and sympathy at a difficult time.

If you’d like to honour a loved one and feel it would be appropriate, you may wish to set up a Collection Pot. You can raise money for a charity close to their hearts, or support their family. It’s free to do. Take a look here. 

Elaine Keep

Elaine Keep is an accomplished content writer with over 15 years of experience in the field of marketing and content creation for many leading brands, where she shares her passion for research and helping others through her articles. You can also find her in 'mum mode', walking in the countryside or enjoying the dreamy combo of a new non-fiction book with a tea and chocolate bar to hand.

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